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Delivered to your inbox weekly. Your partner might want to talk right away. But they also might need days or weeks before they can address the issue with you. Your partner may need space and time before they can discuss what happened. And often, this might involve physical space. Your partner may want more transparency and communication from you in the future. This is common after a betrayal of trust. You may even willingly share your phone and computer with your partner to prove your honesty.
If you want to repair your relationship and avoid hurting your partner again in the future, you need to reach a mutual understanding of what good communication looks like. Miscommunications or misunderstandings can sometimes cause as much pain as intentional dishonesty.
Being in a relationship with broken trust can be extremely uncomfortable. Both sides might be eager to get the whole rebuilding process over with as fast as possible.
But realistically, this takes time. How much time, exactly? It depends on a lot of factors, particularly the event that broke the trust. Long-standing patterns of infidelity or dishonestly will take longer to resolve.
A single lie grounded in a misunderstanding or desire to protect may be easier to address, especially when the partner who lied shows sincere regret and a renewed commitment to communication. Have patience with yourself. If your partner makes a mistake or two over the course of a long relationship and owns up to it, working on trust issues may be the right move.
Couples counseling can be a great resource when dealing with trust issues, particularly those involving infidelity. A counselor can offer an unbiased view of you relationship and help both partners work through underlying issues. Having tough conversations about betrayal and trust can also bring up painful emotions on both sides.
Finally when you feel fearful, you go into self-protection mode: you withdraw, the walls come up and you stop your partner from getting close to you. When you can no longer be vulnerable with the other person, you begin to experience different things in your relationship.
Take a moment to consider this: your partner is not solely responsible for creating mistrustful feelings. In most cases, you must take equal responsibility for creating an atmosphere of safety and security in your relationship. In order to begin the process of overcoming mistrust, ask yourself:.
If you need reassurance from your partner, ask for it. Invite them into knowing you, how they make you feel and how you want to make them feel. Be open about your hopes, fears and dreams. Assume your partner has good intentions. If they let you down, it may not be intentional —sometimes people simply make a mistake.
Spend time every day checking-in, turning towards each other and reflecting on how things are. Acknowledge how past hurts may trigger mistrust in the present. Be aware of unresolved issues from your past relationships that may be triggering mistrust in the present.
Look out of their window. Make space to ask: how did you see this situation? What is your perspective?
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